Affair Repair

online relationship counseling in los angeles and throughout california

Discovering an affair can feel like the ground has been pulled out from under you. The pain, confusion, and uncertainty can be all-consuming, and the idea of healing together may feel completely out of reach. At the same time, you may still feel deeply connected to your partner and the life you've created. Is that connection something worth fighting for?

Infidelity affects nearly half of all relationships, and betrayal can take many forms—whether it’s a brief encounter, an emotional connection, or a long-term affair. If you’re feeling lost and unsure what to do next, you’re not alone. We’re here to help you navigate the aftermath with compassion, clarity, and the tools needed to begin healing—together or apart.

Three Goals for Affair Therapy


  • Processing the intense emotions that often follow discovery—like pain, fear, guilt, shock, and sadness

  • Exploring the underlying factors that contributed to the affair, fostering insight and mutual understanding

  • Using this clarity as a foundation to rebuild trust, deepen emotional connection, and strengthen your bond

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How Can Affair Repair Therapy Help?

It’s important to know that healing after an affair is possible—and many couples do come out stronger on the other side. While the pain of betrayal can’t be erased, it can be understood, processed, and worked through with intention and care.

Affair recovery therapy offers a safe, supportive space to begin that journey. Together, we’ll explore the "why," process the hurt, rebuild trust, and strengthen communication. Whether you ultimately decide to stay together or part ways, therapy can help you make that choice with clarity and confidence.

how therapy works

  • Learn more about the process and make sure this is the best fit for you.

  • In the first session, I’ll meet with you as a couple. The next two sessions will be individual sessions, one with each partner. This is the most efficient way for me to get caught up to where you are as quickly as possible.

  • 1. Identify and de-escalate your cycle of conflict.

    2. Restructure and deepen your bond by seeing each other and yourself in a new way.

    3. Consolidate a new cycle in which you both feel heard, understood, and valued in your secure relationship.

  • Therapy is a process, and progress isn’t linear. While you may experience some immediate relief, there may also be sessions that are uncomfortable and challenging. An important component to success in therapy is allowing the time and consistency that is needed for deeper, meaningful change.

questions you may have

  • Yes—many couples are able to rebuild a stronger, more honest relationship after infidelity. While the healing process is not easy, therapy provides a structured and supportive space to process emotions, rebuild trust, and explore whether and how you want to move forward together.

  • The healing timeline varies for each couple. Some may begin to feel relief and progress within a few months, while others may need longer-term support. Factors like the length and nature of the affair, the level of emotional trauma, and each partner’s willingness to engage in the process all play a role.

  • You still deserve a space to feel heard, understood, and supported. While couples therapy is most beneficial with both partners, there are alternative options. I provide therapy for individuals who may want to work on processing an affair, even if their partner is not currently participating in therapy.

If you have a question that I haven’t answered yet, please reach out!